My friend Lucy has four kids and is a hero of mine. She has passed on a lot of wise advice to me in the past ten years but the bit I always come back to is this - Keep asking God for grace to parent.
The older my girls get the more I am aware of my own frailty and inability to meet God's standards when parenting. The amazing thing, is that God has grace for me in abundance. When I lose it with the kids for the tenth time in the day and find myself feeling guilty for not getting it right - for not speaking to the girls more kindly, for not having more patience, for feeling too tired to get one more drink or snack or deal with one more scrap - I thank God that his love and grace for me is not earned! And that although I don't deserve it He still gives it to me again and again and again.
And knowing God has so much grace for me, and that he loves me and is not careless with me reminds me that He has given me my beautiful girls (as crazy as they can be) and called me to motherhood purposefully - And it makes me want to parent better.
It doesn't change the fact that parenting is hard - that life can be hard. When we're up half the night with kids teething, or cleaning up sick for the tenth time, feeling unappreciated or just generally feeling overwhelmed with life and work, sometimes the best solution appears to be giving up - or at least walking out the door for a breather. But God loves to get us on our knees and cause us to be completely dependent on Him again - to remind us that we need his grace and that it is sufficient for us. Getting before God can so often be the last resort for me when it comes to dealing with my kids - which is crazy!! It is the only thing that really works!! Thank you God that I don't have to parent alone. Thank you God for your gracious heart for me.
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